I will meet this woman halfway and say:

"Okay. Only a real man can raise another man's kids. Sure. That means I'm the only man in the picture. That mean's I'm not the stepfather, but the father. The sperm donor is the stepfather. The sperm donor has no say in what I do, I don't care what man's law says. I'm the one married to her under God and I'm the one who brought the little ones into my Pride of Lions. All other males will be exterminated."

But, I don't think that what she means. I think she means:

I'm a babysitter and the sperm donor who treated her like garbage and wants control over her can boss me around. No. Over my dead body.

I will raise another man's former kids. When I marry under God the mother, the kids are mine. No questions asked. As I have been adopted in as a child of God, so the kids to me. As Joseph took Jesus, I will take them. Unless the Bible will begin to be printed saying Joseph was Jesus' stepfather, I will never be one.

If women want a healthy, sexy male, he has to be the permanent father and she has to be the mother. As other mother's act with the fathers of their children, so they will with me. Or not, not my problem, until I'm in my God-given place.